Come, Come Let’s Have A Talk

 

Are you comfortable? Stack three pillows behind you. Put up your feet. And spread a blanket over your legs. It’s a bit cold.

Let me begin by saying, I Know. I know that things aren’t perfect. I understand they’re not as you would like them to be. I know what’s been happening at work. I know the problems at home.

I know you’re wondering when things are going to get better. I know you’re wondering when life is going to make things go YOUR WAY for once.

Will things go your way? Will things get better?

Have you ever seen a jungle? If you look through the tree canopy you see glorious shards of celestial light. If you look on the ground you see rotting wood and armies of ants. Some areas are clear and pristine. While others are disheveled.

If you look in one area or another, it looks either ugly or beautiful. But when you look at it as a whole. When you look at it as a unit. You never find yourself saying that this is a beautiful jungle or an ugly jungle. You never protest against the piles of fallen leaves. In fact, if someone raised the idea of cleaning them up, you wouldn’t feel quite right about it.

Why?

Because it’s the jungle. This is just the way a jungle is. To clean it is to spoil it.

It’s the same with you. And it’s the same with your life. Some parts of you are beautiful and generous. Other parts of you are downright ugly. Some parts of your life are joyful and fortunate. Other parts are cumbersome and painful.

Now, I won’t tell you to accept it. Nor will I tell you to clean it.

If there are some parts of you that are so ugly that you just can’t accept that part of you, then clean it.

Please don’t ask me how. As soon as you ask me how, you and I both know you are not serious about cleaning it. Whatever how I give you will have a shelf life. And then you will return to me for How Part II.

If your hair was on fire would you call me and ask me How to put the fire out? You would certainly put it out.

How?

BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY! That’s How!

How is not a question. It’s a cop out. I could give you a box full of How’s for every problem in your life. And once you had them, you would put the box in the closet and vow to get to it some day.

I suppose what I’m saying is that you will be the most joyful when you are on a journey of some sort. When your day has a path cut through the center of it, you feel alive. It doesn’t matter what the path is. As long as it is of your own making.

It may be the path to a new career. It may be a path to changing your behavior. It may be a path to searching for a new path.

When you are on this path, you quite literally live a brand new sort of day. And you live as a different person. You are charged. You are conscious of your actions. You are on the lookout for that thing you are on the path to clean up. You are alive.

I won’t talk about eventually. I don’t make promises. For if I do you will look into the horizon for the promise to come and in doing so you will miss the path that is at your feet.

I’m not going to tell you where your path will lead. Even if I knew it would defeat the purpose to tell you. It’s the walking of the path that gives you life. The arriving pales in comparison.

Let’s stop here.

So that you can begin.

Your path begins in the morning.

Yes, tomorrow morning.

Tell me.

What will it be?

Dr. Gupta travels the world working with True Seekers. His clientele consists of professional athletes, executives, and celebrities. He helps them become The God Of Their Own Life.

Kapil@KapilGuptaMD.com